What does this line mean from Song.

I will post the chorus of the song, so there's some context. In the last line, what does it mean by "asi no se vive"- it translates to so you don't live, but that doesn't really make sense..Does someone know. Thanks>

Hay tantas cosas que no te dije
Por qué no me dijiste tu nombre antes de irte
Buscándote, buscándote como un detective
En guerra con la soledad y así no se vive